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02/06/08
ENFP vs ESTJ
Filed under: General
Posted by: Mae-Ling @ 11:44 am

According to the Myers Brigg Personality Test, I’m ENFP, and Alan is ESTJ. We only match on one personality type - Extrovert!

The following descriptions are very telling about who we are. In fact, it’s almost eerie how exact they are:

How to Love an ESTJ (how ML is supposed to love AT):

    * Appreciate how dependable and accountable I am.

    * Respect my opinions and listen to my advice.

    * Notice, acknowledge, and thank me for my hard work and dedication to you and our family.

    * Be honest, direct, and specific when discussing problems.

    * Try not to disrupt my routines, and to keep the house orderly.

    * Above all - respect my desire to be in charge and in control as much as possible.

Tips for Communicating with ESTJs:

    * Be assertive and to the point (bottom line it!)

    * Be prepared to support your ideas with logical reasons

    * Appeal to their innate sense of fairness

How to Love an ENFP (how AT is suppose to love ML):

    * Appreciate my creativity, curiosity, and uniqueness.

    * Tell me how much I mean to you and be patient with my need to process how I feel privately before sharing it with you.

    * Re-establish harmony quickly.

    * Support my need to try new experiences and maintain my many friendships.

    * Try not force decisions too quickly, or bug me about being messy.

    * Above all - encourage me to keep growing, changing, and experimenting with life.

Tips for Communicating with ENFPs:

    * Focus on interesting and innovative possibilities and new ways of solving problems

    * Don’t overwhelm them with facts and details

    * Keep things relaxed, warm and flexible

ENFP
The jobs/occupations using both dominant and auxiliary functions are:
Counsellor
Trainer
Designer
Writer/editor

ESTJ
The jobs/occupations using both dominant and auxiliary functions are:
Sales
Scientist/biologist/physicist/chemist
Accountant/auditor/banker/economist
Teacher
Consultant
Computer specialist

ENFP + ESTJ = ACTIVITY

Relations of ACTIVITY between psychological (”personality”) types

These relations are the easiest and quickest to start. Activity partners do not experience any visual difficulties when starting relations which can be surprising to them at the beginning. Partners stimulate each other into activity. Interaction with an Activity partner becomes really satisfying especially if both partners feel a mutual attraction. However, with continuous interaction over a long period comes overactivation which normally results in an overall tiredness of each other (a good example is when you watch a comedy that is so funny that after half the film you do not have the energy to laugh anymore). When this happens Activity partners need a short rest from each other, after which they can enjoy a positive interaction once again. This pattern repeats itself giving these relations an oscillating character. If partners cannot take a break from each other, it can cause negative stimulation to take the place of positive.

Although overall interaction between partners is nice and easy, when it comes to fulfilling everyday duties and matters together, partners usually meet with many problems. Instead of solving the problems, Activity partners tend to give advice to each other on how to solve these problems, often affecting each others weak points. The advice of an Activity partner is always useful as it can strengthen your weakness, but not so much that it will ever become your strength.

The other problem with these relations is that information between Activity partners always needs some adjustments. One partner may think of it as too foggy and not concrete enough, whereas for the other partner it is too unrefined. Collaboration is also difficult, because partners cannot predict each others behaviour and actions in what seem to be ordinary situations. Because of this, partners cannot rely or count on each other in full. Most of the problems that arise during Activity relationships are because one partner is always Perceiving and the other is always Judging, meaning that they live in different life rhythms.

These relations are excellent for leisure, but not for day to day activities. When two Duality pairs gather together (forming a complete Quadrable) they experience a feeling of elation. The reason for this is that when two Duality pairs interact with each other, the two introverts (one from each Duality pair) and the two extroverts (again, one from each Duality pair) interact with each other as relations of Activity. Introverts in relations of Activity become slightly extroverted and more open, whereas two extroverts will often calm down a little.

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